{"product_id":"the-caregiver-bundle","title":"The Caregiver Bundle","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe two books for the adult child in the middle of it.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTwo books, one parcel, for the person who became the caregiver without being asked. Help Aging Parents Get Organized is the 80-page fill-in organizer you complete together — the will, the accounts, the passwords, the medical wishes, the who-to-call roster — so none of it lives only in your parent's head. Caregiving Without Losing Yourself is the 164-page candid guide to the years after: the boundaries, the guilt, the siblings, the money, and how to care for a parent without quietly wrecking your own health and retirement. One is what you write down. The other is how you get through it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eTwo Paperback Books · 244 pages\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eBy M. E. Hart\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eEducational information only — not legal, financial, medical, or tax advice.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eThe paperwork and the person. You're doing both, and mostly alone.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt starts as one errand. A ride to an appointment, a bill that didn't get paid, a call from a neighbour who thought you should know. Six months on you know the pharmacy number by heart and you still couldn't say where the deed is, who holds power of attorney, or which of the four banks the mortgage is with. Nobody hands you the role, a manual, or a sibling who picks up.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese two books split that job in half. One gets the facts out of your parent's head and onto paper while they can still tell you — 80 pages of prompts you fill in together at the kitchen table, with a second set for the other parent. The other is the one you read at 2am in the years that follow, when the question stops being \u0026lt;em\u0026gt;where is the will\u0026lt;\/em\u0026gt; and starts being \u0026lt;em\u0026gt;how long can I keep doing this\u0026lt;\/em\u0026gt;. Buy the pair now and both halves are covered before the crisis picks which one you needed first.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eMost people buy one, then come back for the other\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe organizer is a conversation you can only have while your parent is still well enough to have it. The guide is what you need once that window has shut. Buy them a year apart and you'll do the second half from memory, in a hospital corridor, with a sibling on speaker. Together they're cheaper than the two bought separately and they arrive in one parcel — and every figure in the caregiving half, from Medicare's 100-day skilled-nursing limit to the Medicaid spend-down and the VA's Aid \u0026amp;amp; Attendance, is cited to a named primary source rather than to a blog post.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTwo books, and what each one does\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eKeep yourself standing\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpot burnout before it flattens you\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBoundaries that hold — with your parent and siblings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe guilt and resentment no one says out loud\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eProtect their money\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGuard against fraud and financial exploitation\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDurable POA, convenience vs. joint accounts\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSSA representative payee, not just a POA\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eProtect your own retirement\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe caregiving tax on wages \u0026amp; Social Security\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFMLA and state paid family leave\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTax breaks family caregivers miss\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWork the systems\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat Medicare does and doesn't cover\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMedicaid, spend-down \u0026amp; the look-back\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe VA, and getting paid to caregive\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eThe hard calls\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDriving, safety, and when home isn't safe\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSharing the load with siblings who don't\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHospice \u0026amp; palliative care before the crisis\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eThe long goodbye\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGrieving someone who is still here\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDementia's slow leaving, and what still lands\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe person you get back when it's over\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eTheir people \u0026amp; professionals\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFamily, friends \u0026amp; who to call first\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoctors, attorney \u0026amp; financial advisor\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWho has authority to act\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDocuments \u0026amp; where they live\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWill, trust, POA \u0026amp; directive locations\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDeeds, titles \u0026amp; key papers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA locator so nothing is lost\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAccounts, bills \u0026amp; passwords\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBanks, pensions \u0026amp; investments\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBills, autopay \u0026amp; subscriptions to cancel\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhere passwords are kept — safely\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eProperty \u0026amp; valuables\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHome, vehicles \u0026amp; belongings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDigital accounts \u0026amp; devices\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWho specific items go to\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMedical \u0026amp; final wishes\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eConditions, meds \u0026amp; care preferences\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEnd-of-life and service wishes\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat matters most to them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eA second set for the other parent\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFourteen more pages, start to finish\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTheir own accounts, papers and wishes\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOne book instead of two\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eChoosing and paying for care\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat Medicare generally won't cover\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe monthly gap between cost and income\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Medicaid look-back, and tour sheets\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhen the time comes\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe complete who-to-notify roster\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFour grab-and-go Emergency Quick-Sheets\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA First 30 Days checklist for the family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAppointments, meds \u0026amp; authority\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSix doctor-visit pages, and what to ask\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA medication log — every start, stop \u0026amp; dose change\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWho accepted the POA, so you prove it once\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eQuestions people ask\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat's actually in the bundle?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBoth paperbacks, shipped together in one parcel: Help Aging Parents Get Organized (80 pages, 8.5x11 fill-in organizer) and Caregiving Without Losing Yourself (164 pages, 5.5x8.5). They are the same editions sold separately — nothing is abridged.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy buy the pair instead of one?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBecause they do opposite halves of the same job. The organizer captures the facts while your parent can still tell you them; the guide is what you read at 2am in the years after. Most people who buy one come back for the other, and the pair costs less than the two bought apart.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDo I need to fill in the organizer before reading the other one?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNo. Start wherever you are. If there is an active crisis, read the first two chapters of Caregiving Without Losing Yourself tonight and open the organizer when things settle. If nothing is wrong yet, do the organizer first — that is the easier conversation to have while it is still hypothetical.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCan I give one and keep the other?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYes, and plenty of people do — one for the sibling doing the paperwork, one for the sibling doing the visits. They are two separate books in one parcel, not a boxed set.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHow fast does it arrive?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBoth books are printed to order and posted together in one parcel. Free US shipping, and delivery runs about two weeks. There is no rush tier, because the printer sets that schedule and not us — we would rather give you the real date than sell you a faster one we don't control.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat if my parent refuses to talk about any of this?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThat is the more common starting point, and the organizer opens there: what to say, when to raise it, and what to do when \"let's sort out your will\" ends the conversation. Start with the who-to-call roster and the account list instead. They are practical, they don't sound like a deathbed discussion, and they are the two things you will need first.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCan I write in them?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe organizer is built for it — 8.5x11, wide margins, one prompt per line, printed on paper that takes ballpoint without bleeding. Use pencil for anything that changes, like account balances. Then put the finished book somewhere your executor can actually find it, and tell one other person where that is.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHow is this different from the End of Life Planner?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDifferent person, different moment. The End of Life Planner is for organizing your OWN affairs, on your own timetable. These two are for an adult child working on a PARENT'S affairs, usually while something is already going wrong. If you are doing both jobs at once, plenty of people own all three.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMy parent has already died. Is this still worth buying?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHalf of it. The organizer is written for a parent who can still answer your questions, so it is the wrong book now, and we would rather say so than take the sale. Caregiving Without Losing Yourself still earns its place: the sibling fallout, the money, the paperwork nobody warned you about, and the part after the funeral that no one plans for.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe facts written down while your parent can still tell you them, and a candid guide to the years after. Two paperbacks, one parcel, free US shipping. A few quiet afternoons now — and it's done, off your plate and off your mind.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Retirement In Order","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44290364735591,"sku":"8mv5qd","price":44.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0680\/7312\/8039\/files\/the-caregiver-bundle-thumb_508117ac-b338-4973-ad9c-9a16d311811b.png?v=1785546724","url":"https:\/\/shop.retirementinorder.com\/products\/the-caregiver-bundle","provider":"Retirement In Order","version":"1.0","type":"link"}